One of my colleague at work, gave me this movie to watch. Vivir Mata, in spanish it means life kills. The movie deals with how two strangers concoct lies to impress upon each other, Thus they find some kind of twisted romance in their adventure. To be frank, I did not get the punch that I have normally felt from other Spanish language movies. It was a little slow going and did not really draw me into its story line. The movie deals with how some people are desparate to derive pleasure from relationships with strangers, that are more exotic, even if its a total sham and built with lies. The movie does end with a feel good effect, where both of them accept the fact that they were drawn towards each other for their respective lies and yet choose to accept one another.
In a way, I still see it as similar to how two people in order to impress each other will build a fantasy world around them. Each of them enjoys the bliss and works hard in maintaining the level of excitement. But how long can you maintain the same level of excitement? That is why sometimes people are bored after getting married and would term that the relationship has become meaningless or is losing its weight.
But if you look harder and try to understand, you will realise, that the meaning and weight to the relationship was built by this imaginary fairy tale perception by both the involved parties. Marriage is just a ritual that was performed, it should not blunt the effort for maintaining excitement at the same level or maybe higher. SO the question I ask is do you still work hard to impress your soul mate, just like you did when you met them the first time?
2 comments:
I see it more as the life cycle of a relationship. We can argue what is the life cycle of a relationship - what would the different stages be and how long each one of them continues. One can say that it starts with hope - hope that maybe the relationship would work out, then comes excitement - when you actually start believing that it is the right person. Than moves into bliss state - Yes, both people think their partner is the right person. Then from there it can go many ways - one direction is being in a state of emotional security - your partner is always there to support you, to like you for what you really are, to always consider your needs, to share the joys and hardships of life. I don't think you can have the same level of excitement through out - it just moves to a different stage. I remember this french movie that they showed long ago on bulgarian TV. The husband loved his wife and was so scared they cannot keep the level of excitement at the level of a new romance. He would pretend to be somebody else and make his wife fall in love with him all over - just so that they can enjoy the thrill and exhilaration once again.
Excellent point of view. You do bring out the different stages of fantasy period (starting phase) of the relationship.
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